The 20+ Transitioning Ritual

What if I could make up a perfect “Start your Quarter-life” ritual? Call me, and I will lead the Ritual!

It could be a ritual of at least 4 meetings.

1. The first meeting would be with the 20+ and her/his family (Parents, maybe Grandparents, Siblings and Aunts or Uncles)During this meeting they will talk/share about the following topics:

– What it means to start living on your own, finding a place to live, work, meeting new people, creating a new support system (internal and external), and nurturing yourself.

– First Grandma and Grandpa will share some experiences/feelings ( no direct advice), secondly the Mother will share, the Father, other family members who have been there (> age 35 ). This as in “story telling”. The others listen, don’t interrupt or respond right away.  The 20+ gets time to interview them. . She or he get’s a “special 20+ transitioning notebook” from her family, to make notes and write down anything learned.

2. The second meeting will be with the 20+ and her/his parents and maybe other adults close to the family.

During this meeting they will only talk about work and a career and financial planning and foundation. Again first the Mother, secondly the Father, and the other people can share their experiences. Again, no interrupting or responding, more like listening to the stories and learn from it. The 20+ can make notes in the “special 20+ transitioning notebook”

3. The third meeting will be with the 20+, her/his parents and siblings or friends. This meeting is all about sharing experiences/ feelings about the importance of relationships and finding a partner for life maybe having your own family one day. Again no responding to the stories, mostly listening and learning. The 20 + makes notes in her/his “special 20+ transitioning notebook”. There will also be talked about how times have changed, and everything is possible but how our bodies have not. Fertility facts, the costs and why planning a family is smart and how postponing this might be something you will regret later.

4. The fourth and last meeting is with the 20+ and her family and friends/peers. This meeting first the parents will share experiences/feelings about where to live, moving to new places, urban or suburban, what kind of house, neighborhood, commuting, where would you like your kids to grow up and everything related to this. Again the person talking will not be interrupted, no responding, just sharing and learning. The 20+ can make notes in her/his “special 20+ transitioning notebook”

All these meetings should take about 3 hours each and one meeting each month. The first meeting before leaving the house. The whole idea is to learn about taking charge and knowing that you are the making choices about your life. No one can do it for you, we all need to go through this and it’s scary and hard but most of all, the best time of your life were all major transitions happen.

Sounds perfect to me! I cannot wait till my girls graduate!


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